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Partner Reinforcement of Pain
Another possible reaction your partner may have to your pain is solicitousness, or extreme care and concern tinged with protectiveness and apprehensiveness. It’s nice to have a partner who cares about you and is there for you when your pain flares up. Your partner’s concern may make you feel loved. However, as you’ll see, solicitousness has some potential pitfalls.
Let’s evaluate whether solicitousness is a dynamic in your relationship.
Rate how frequently your partner does the following. Then indicate whether you dislike
it or like it when he or she does those things.
pays more attention to your needs when you are in pain than when you’re not in pain
not at all
very
often
encourages you to rest when you’re in pain
not at all
very
often
is especially nice to you when you are in pain
not at all
very
often
gives you a massage when you’re in pain
not at all
very
often
brings you your pain medication when you’re in pain
not at all
very
often
asks you how you feel when you’re in pain
not at all
very
often
offers to help in some way when you’re in pain
not at all
very
often
encourages you to call your doctor when your pain flares up
not at all
very
often
takes over your chores and duties when you are in pain
not at all
very
often
To calculate your score for this exercise, add up the numbers you circled, then
divide by 9. This is your Partner Reinforcement of Pain score. This number should
be between 0 and 7.
Total
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